Teaching young children to ask for help is a vital positive behavior support skill that fosters communication, independence, and safe problem-solving. This visual post illustrates 6 positive steps for asking for help that children can learn and practice in everyday situations. These steps encourage children to recognize when they need assistance, communicate their need clearly using speech, gestures, sign, or AAC, and respond positively to receiving help.
1. Notice the Problem
Children first need to recognize when they face a challenge or difficulty. This awareness is the foundation for seeking support rather than becoming frustrated or overwhelmed.
2. Say or Show “Help”
Encourage children to use their preferred communication method—whether spoken words, signs, gestures, pictures, or AAC devices—to clearly indicate they need help. Teaching multiple ways to say “help” increases accessibility.
3. Wait Calmly
Waiting calmly after asking for help teaches patience and self-regulation. Visual timers or calm breathing techniques can support this step.
4. Accept Help
Receiving assistance positively helps children learn cooperation and trust. Adults should model gentle, supportive responses and encourage children to accept help without resistance.
5. Try Again
After help is given, children should be encouraged to try the task again, building confidence and independence.
6. Say Thank You
Expressing gratitude reinforces social skills and positive interactions. Children can say “thank you” verbally, with signs, or through gestures.
Parents and caregivers can support these steps by modeling each action, using visual supports like picture cards, keeping instructions simple, and praising specific positive behaviors such as “You asked for help nicely!” or “Great job waiting calmly!” Remember to teach these skills when the child is calm and receptive, and reinforce effort consistently.
For related strategies on supporting routines and transitions, see Using Visual Schedules: 6 Positive Steps for Young Children and Transitioning Activities: 6 Positive Steps for Young Children.
What is your child’s favorite way to ask for help?
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