Helping young children communicate their choices is a vital step in supporting their independence and self-advocacy. My Choices, My Voice introduces six practical phrases that children can use every day to express what they want, don’t want, or need. These phrases are especially helpful for autistic children and those who need extra communication support, as they provide simple, clear ways to share preferences using speech, gestures, picture cards, or AAC devices.
Why Teaching Choice-Making Matters
Choice-making helps children feel empowered and understood. When children can say “I want this” or “No, thank you,” they learn to set boundaries and communicate preferences, which reduces frustration and builds confidence. According to experts, supporting choice-making is a key part of fostering communication skills and autonomy in young children (CDC Act Early Parent Companion).
Six Essential Phrases for Expressing Choices
- I want this – Use when the child points to or selects a preferred item, like a snack or toy.
- No, thank you – A polite way to refuse something the child doesn’t want.
- Which one? – When the child is offered options and wants help choosing.
- More please – To request additional amounts of a desired item or activity.
- Break please – To ask for a pause or rest when feeling overwhelmed or tired.
- My turn – To indicate the child is ready to have a turn in a game or activity.
How Parents Can Model and Practice These Phrases
Parents can support their child by naturally incorporating these phrases into daily routines without pressure. For example, during snack time, offer two choices and say, “Do you want apple or banana?” Then model pointing and saying “I want this.” When the child refuses, model “No, thank you” respectfully. Use picture cards or AAC devices to reinforce the phrases and give the child time to respond.
It’s important to respect the child’s communication method and timing. Celebrate attempts to communicate, whether by gesture, sign, speech, or AAC. This approach encourages confidence and reduces frustration.
For more ideas on supporting communication in different settings, see related posts like When I Need a Break and Words for Busy Places.
Key Takeaways
- Teaching choice-making phrases helps children express preferences and build independence.
- Use simple, clear phrases supported by gestures, signs, or AAC.
- Model phrases naturally in daily life without forcing speech or eye contact.
- Respect the child’s communication style and celebrate all attempts.
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